cocomuffin101 Asked: Lucid dreaming help?????????
So i recently found out about lucid dreaming, and on my third night of trying i had one! And i've had about 3 more since then, but all of them aren't very vivid and it's like i don't think completely clear – they're also very short. And every lucid dream i've had i've always been in my house. My first one was where i was in my bathroom and the tap water was a muddy brown, i realised that couldn't happen and i was dreaming. But the rest of my lucid dreams have all started with me simply getting out of bed at night, and knowing i was dreaming. I'd do a reality check to comfirm it. Once i tried to turn the night to day because it was all too dark, but it didn't work. But it's just annoying because what i want to do most is just jump out of my window and fly! But in my lucid dreams… i just don't think of it at all. And one time (when i had a sort of long one) i walked through the mirror in my room to try and get to a paradise beach, instead i ended up in some hut in a jungle with a dream character, and i didn't even question the dream character!! I've also tried spinning and rubbing my hands together when the dream beging to fuzz away, but it doesn't work.
So… my questions are:
Will i become more lucid with the more lucid dreams i have?
Why do they always start with me in my bed and just knowing i'm dreaming?
Why are they so short?
How can i gain more control while i'm having a lucid dream?
P.S sorry for the annoying question marks in the title ^ Stupid yahoo made me have more characters. -_-
Do you take prescription meds like Remeron?They cab cause lucid dreaming or dreams which mimic reality in ever way but one.Often the dreamer is paralyzed to act or deactivate the dream and it must run it course till it's frightfulness awakens you.If you think it's drug related stop taking the drug.If you're clean and sober the only way I know to stop a lucid dream is to either sleep during the day or exhaust yourself (with exercise, job, etc) before falling asleep.You may also try not sleeping and by the time you do fall asleep, you will be too exhausted to recall your dreams.
I think the answer above is much more applicable, but I answer for the sake of depth. haha
It is very common for lucid dreams to begin in or around where you fell asleep, it is a phenomenon called false awakenings that often trick people into thinking they are awake when they are not. In my opinion, they may be caused by under sleeping, and your subconscious essentially tries to "keep you under" for as long as possible. You weren't fooled,though, and I applaud you.:D
Now, to the more important questions:
First off, when you tried using the mirror by way of transportation, did you see your desired destination or use blind faith when entering? If by chance you choose the second option, it can obviously be very unpredictable where you may end up. When attempting this method again, if you choose, try visualizing your target destination and projecting it onto the mirror. It my not present itself as clear as the destination, but your subconscious is highly susceptible to intentions and repetition.
"Will i become more lucid with the more lucid dreams i have?"
Spot on. It is like learning how to walk again, except you are learning how to access a whole new plane of reality with subjective rules. When trying to fly in a dream, don't be discouraged if you fail. You are certainly not used to flying in such a manor in your waking life, so it should come as no surprise that you cant grasp it on your first few times. This concept applies to many lucid dreaming activities and actions, just keep practicing and remember that it is a dream and that it is completely possible. (Because it is)
"Why do they always start with me in my bed and just knowing i'm dreaming?"
This happens to me often as well, and I think it has to do with a subconscious alert. I noticed that when I first started researching and recording my dreams, I would have these dreams in which I would find myself immersed in a lucid dream. My theory for this is that it is a very strong conscious and/or unconscious want. Since your subconscious is, as I mentioned before, highly susceptible to repetition and strong intention, you were granted a lucid dream solely on that. Especially if the was virtually no apparent trigger, this is most likely the reason. If not that, than it may be something that you ingested that affected the vividness or lucidity of your dreams. Sometimes, I just get the feeling I am in a dream, even if it is only because my vision is slightly hazy.
"Why are they so short?"
As you may know, excitement can alert the body that you are consciously awake and sends signals to wake you up. This is due to physical rations to non-physical action or stress. Because of this, it is important to stay as calm as possible during one. This does not mean that you can not have fun in your dreams, but you have to learn to mask excitement. I often compare it to trying to keep a strait face when you are really amused. If that is not the problem, than you may have been rattled briefly by something external. One more explanation I can lend is that you have reached the end of your REM (Dream) cycle. REM sleep is when we dream the most, and it occurs about 90 minutes after we fall asleep, being the 5th stage in the sleep cycle. At the beginning of the night, these cycles are relatively short, spanning only a few minutes the first rotation. As the night goes on, REM stages become dilated.
"How can i gain more control while i'm having a lucid dream?"
The answer is entirely up to you. The true nature of the subconscious is very convoluted and personal; it varies from person to person. It is also very crucial to note that you do not CONTROL the dream, merely direct them. You may summon a bike, for example, but have you ever wondered what makes it the model, color and size? Your subconscious acts and reacts based on conscious intentions, so you have to learn to form that relationship with itself.
I hope any of this helps.
Good luck, Oneironaut.